Buying Yourself Flowers Is How You Break The Cycle of Feeling Unseen, Unheard and Unloved
We’ve all heard about the 5 Love Languages—Acts of Service, Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. They’re often talked about in the context of romantic relationships, as a way to better understand our partners and feel more deeply connected.
But here’s the truth: you don’t need to wait for someone else to speak your love language. In fact, if you’re a Mum or a woman who’s spent years giving, nurturing, and holding it all together, waiting for someone else to meet your emotional needs might be the very thing keeping you stuck in a cycle of invisibility and depletion.
This episode of The One Person Podcast opens the door to a new conversation—one that reframes your love language not just as a tool for connection, but as a powerful practice of self-acknowledgment and emotional healing.
When You’re the One Who Holds Everything Together…
Let’s be real: motherhood, caregiving, and emotional labor often go unrecognized.
You’re the one who remembers the appointments, notices the subtle shifts in everyone’s moods, keeps the fridge stocked, the birthday gifts bought, the kids supported, the house running. And yet somehow… no one notices you.
It’s not that you want a medal. But sometimes, just someone asking “How are you, really?” would feel like a miracle.
And over time, that quiet invisibility starts to whisper messages you internalize: You’re not important. Your needs don’t matter. You’re only as valuable as what you give.
This is where the cycle begins. And this is where it needs to end.
Love Languages as a Path to Wholeness
In this week’s episode, we explore how your love language—something you’ve likely used to give love to others—can become the very key to reclaiming your own emotional vitality.
Not as a last resort. But as a daily, deliberate act of choosing yourself.
Imagine what could shift if:
You bought yourself flowers and didn’t wait for a special occasion.
You spoke kind, affirming words to yourself when things felt hard.
You carved out sacred, uninterrupted time just to be with your own thoughts.
You created rituals that grounded you in touch—without needing a partner’s hand.
You did something for you that made life easier, simply because you’re worth it.
This isn’t about self-care as a buzzword. This is about self-recognition. Emotional acknowledgment. Deep, radical, embodied love.
And for many women, especially Mums, this is the missing piece.
You Don’t Have to Keep Waiting
One of the biggest shifts you’ll hear in this episode is the idea that love isn’t something you earn through sacrifice. It’s something you give because you exist. Because you are worthy. Because you matter.
The episode gently unpacks where many women get caught—believing that being everything to everyone else will eventually earn them the love and support they crave.
But it doesn’t work that way. Not sustainably.
Instead, we explore what it means to turn the language of love inward—to speak to yourself in the way you’ve always wanted someone else to speak to you.
And spoiler alert? You might just find that when you do, everything else starts to shift too.
Topics Discussed In This Episode
Why Mums often feel unseen, unheard, and unloved
What emotional labor really costs—and why it goes unnoticed
How to identify your own love language (and how you already speak it to others)
5 tangible ways to speak your love language to yourself
Why self-love isn’t selfish—it’s a form of healing
The unconscious stories Mums carry about worthiness and sacrifice
The importance of showing up for your inner child
A gentle reminder to take up space and trust your own value
Resources Mentioned:
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
The Five Love Languages FREE QUIZ
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